I FIRST STARTED READING THIS EMAIL & WAS READING FAST, UNTIL I REACHED THE THIRD SENTENCE. I STOPPED AND STARTED OVER, READING SLOWER, AND THINKING ABOUT EVERY WORD. THIS EMAIL IS VERY THOUGHT-PROVOKING. MAKES YOU STOP AND THINK. READ SLOWLY!
AND THEN IT’S WINTER
You know. . . Time has a way of moving quickly and catching you unaware of the passing years. It seems just yesterday that I was young, just married and embarking on my new life with my mate. Yet in a way, it seems like eons ago, and I wonder where all the years went. I know that I lived them all. I have glimpses of how it was back then and of all my hopes and dreams.
But, here it is… The winter of my life and it catches me by surprise…How did I get here so fast? Where did the years go and where did my youth go? I remember well seeing older people through the years and thinking that those older people were years away from me and that winter was so far off that I could not fathom it or imagine fully what it would be like.
But, here it is…my friends are retired and getting gray…they move slower and I see an older person now. Some are in better and some worse shape than me…but, I see the great change…Not like the ones that I remember who were young and vibrant…but, like me, their age is beginning to show and we are now those older folks that we used to see and never thought we’d be. Each day now, I find that just getting a shower is a real target for the day! And taking a nap is not a treat anymore… it’s mandatory! Cause if I don’t on my own free will… I just fall asleep where I sit!
And so…now I enter into this new season of my life unprepared for all the aches and pains and the loss of strength and ability to go and do things that I wish I had done but never did!! But, at least I know, that though the winter has come, and I’m not sure how long it will last…this I know, that when it’s over on this earth…its over. A new adventure will begin!
Yes, I have regrets. There are things I wish I hadn’t done…things I should have done, but indeed, there are many things I’m happy to have done. It’s all in a lifetime.
So, if you’re not in your winter yet…let me remind you, that it will be here faster than you think. So, what ever you would like to accomplish in your life please do it quickly! Don’t put things off too long!! Life goes by quickly. So, do what you can today, as you can never be sure whether this is your winter or not! You have no promise that you will see all the seasons of your life…so, live for today and say all the things that you want your loved ones to remember…and hope that they appreciate and love you for all the things that you have done for them in all the years past!!
“Life” is a gift to you. The way you live your life is your gift to those who come after. Make it a fantastic one.
LIVE IT WELL! ENJOY TODAY! DO SOMETHING FUN! BE HAPPY ! HAVE A GREAT DAY
Remember “It is health that is real wealth and not pieces of gold and silver “
LIVE HAPPY IN 2013! LASTLY, CONSIDER THE FOLLOWING: TODAY IS THE OLDEST YOU’VE EVER BEEN, YET THE YOUNGEST YOU’LL EVER BE SO – ENJOY THIS DAY WHILE IT LASTS.
FURTHER THOUGHTS
• Your kids are becoming you……but your grandchildren are perfect!
• Going out is good.. Coming home is better!
• You forget names…. But it’s OK because other people forgot they even knew you!!!
• You realize you’re never going to be really good at anything…. Especially golf.
• The things you used to care to do, you no longer care to do, but you really do care that you don’t care to do them anymore.
• You sleep better on a lounge chair with the TV blaring than in bed. It’s called “pre-sleep”.
• You miss the days when everything worked with just an “ON” and “OFF” switch
• You tend to use more 4 letter words … “what?”…”when?”… ???
• Now that you can afford expensive jewelry, it’s not safe to wear it anywhere.
• You notice everything they sell in stores is “sleeveless”?!!!
• What used to be freckles are now liver spots.
• Everybody whispers.
• You have 3 sizes of clothes in your closet…. 2 of which you will never wear.
• But Old is good in some things: Old Songs, Old movies, and best of all, OLD FRIENDS!!
Stay well, “OLD FRIEND!” Send this on to other “Old Friends!” and let them laugh in AGREEMENT!!! It’s Not What You Gather, But What You Scatter That Tells What Kind Of Life You Have Lived.!!!
As the song goes, “I am changing becoming who I am meant to be”, but more importantly, knowing who I really am. It has been a long journey, one that has had so many lows with fewer highs, but those highs made it all worth it. But it is not about my past, although the past has molded me into who I am now, it is the allowing of my beingness, the who I am in my now which will also take me forward into my tomorrow that counts.
It is not about the destination but the journey, the small miles stones along the way, and those who you meet that help you with guidance tools and loving wisdom. We are a sum of our past present and dreams, we are all, we are everything.
To some, our all will not be enough for it is not about you, but about what you can do to serve them. Service is very important as it is in how we serve each other that makes our community stronger and gives us a meaningful purpose. Those that want you to serve them purely for their benefit and not for the collectiveness of a connection, you need to walk away from, for they will suck the life out of you.
Being true to you is essential, for you are with you forever and a day, every moment in every way. Being at peace with self lovingly from within and living out will be your key to living truly in your own light.
When I was told I could not do it, be it, I had this to say….
They said I could not do it, who did I think I was, a nobody, no worth, no monetary value, but I kept moving forward, kept reaching for those stars, kept believing I was here for something. Now they see me, hear me, believe in me, now I can make that difference I have strived for, now my life has meaning and purpose for now I know why I am here, and the journey was all worth while.
Despite what they said, all I could do was keep walking forward, keep on walking the path of self discovery and of my own meaningful purpose, and in doing so I found me. Am I enough for others? No, but it is not about them but about me, I am enough for me and in my desire to be all I can be for me, I keep striving to be more of who I am.
As I have said before, I am not everyone’s cup of tea, but I am someone’s strong cup of coffee. I am a strong woman, I am a person of conviction, I am someone who sees the discontent in others, I do reflect that back to them, unknowingly, so that they can see them selves from the inside out. This of cause does not always go down well, as many people rather live in their own illusion than discover their inner truth.
So, I redirected to bringing that light that takes you to your inner truth, by spotlighting those who can show you the way. I found in my Self Discovery my purpose that serves not only those sharing their story, but those in desperate need to hear the wisdom and knowledge of those who have taken the path before us.
I will still get people telling me I am doing is wrong, I am not enough, I am not what they want; but to this I say, I am what I am, doing what I am meant to do, that serves our global community for those ready to hear their truth.
Take a good look in the mirror and ask yourself lovingly, who are you and are you being true to you? You may not like the answer, but in Self Discovery of our inner truth, you will thank yourself in the end just by being wonderful you.
May women of the world walk tall in their womanhood without judgment, assumption, conditions, fear and live in respect of the gift to the world that she is, for where would life be without her birthing humanity and her loving nurturing ways; her strength and courage and her infinite love that seeds and waters us as a whole world.
Women, we grow life within our bellies, we seed growth within our children dreams, we grow support for all those we love and befriend, we believe in the impossible but are sensible is our actions, we come from caring, kindness, and love, for we believe in life in community, in each other, we are women and we are capable of anything and we are in action of building a future that will serve the all of humanity.
Do not get in our way MEN instead join us, for we have a mission and that is to water the seeds of possibility’s of loving growth and we are making it happen right now. We are women, we are kindness, we are love.
I am WOMAN, I birth life, love, care, kindness, spirit and inner truth, hear me for you are on my path now and I will show you the way. We can create innovations, wonders of the mind, IGNITE THE HEART AND SOUL AND PROPEL OUR SPIRITS but we can not increase time, so don’t waste it on hurt of yesterdays, be the Woman for the Tomorrows and use the time wisely in the NOW.
We are women whose time has come, love kindness and peace is in our hands, let us hold you and show you what can be, for I am woman I am eternity of love.
Women are changing the world, we are empowering, we are inspiring and we are all caring we are all LOVE, WE ARE INVITING THE MEN TO TRULY SEE US, RISE WITH US, ERASE THE DIVIDE AND DANCE TOGETHER AS ONE BEAUTIFUL FORCE OF ENERGY.
We are the women of your tomorrows, we will heal you, ignite you and guide you forward into love peace, and purpose.
We are seeing so many people these days awakening to their soul and heart and it is wonderful, we see so many embracing their consciousness and stepping up to the accountability of one’s thoughts, inner words, outer actions; but there is a but, you will also have those who speak spirit but have no Soul Ethics or Integrity.
One does not connect to our divine soul to capitalize on benefiting or profiting from another under false pretences. Opening up to our soul which feeds and opens the heart and lifts the spirit into action and opens our mind to knowingness, is not a game to be played out to serve an ego or greed or to lord over others.
Having said that there are many out there that have changed their careers to being that person who will help you find your divine path with their shared expertise and love. The trick is to know, who are those that come from a reality of soul truth and who are those riding a wave of EGO.
I HAVE INTERVIEWED MANY ON THIS STATION WHO ARE AUTHENTIC IN THEIR WORK AND HERE FOR THE RIGHT REASONS.
The SOUL is your divine connection to God or source or divine energy whatever you believe in., G.U.S, God, Universe Spirit. It is our truth our knowingness, it is our DIVINE INTELLECT. When we open up to it we know what we need to know when we need to know it, for it is the universal collective knowledge that has no need of lies. IT IS PEACE IT IS LOVE IT IS WHOLENESS.
Spiritual vampires
When someone speaks spirituality or conscious belief, make sure that it is coming from their soul and heart and not just another way to make a buck or feed their EGO. Spirit Charlton’s speak to those who are vulnerable and in soul heart recovery for they are in desperate need to be fed hope and a how to be guided forward into a life of loving meaningful purpose.
Being tuned in, listening to your soul, feeding your heart, lifting your spirit and stepping into knowingness is key to living an ethical integral life. BEWARE of those who are speaking it but not practising it, do not let them pull the wool over your eyes of damage your soul. You will know who they are, the soul vampires, they are the ones who speak first of EGO self importance, not the importance of self ( the difference being one is derived of feeding yourself, mind, body and soul, the other is feeding your insecurity and ego) If it is all about their possibilities, if you see constant promotion of them, if it is about them them them, then it is not about YOU.
Those that truly care, share……those that heal have been there……those that are real, speak to your heart and soul……those that are truth, speak in knowingness.
There are people out there doing DIVINE work in healing of our souls, minds, body and lifting our spirits in to action, hear them, feel them, know them, for their journey is what has made them who they are, their thoughts words and actions speak to who they are, look feel and hear them, then choose that someone you connect to and embrace their love kindness and spirit, for they are the ones who will authentically move you forward into embracing your divine life. Yes, it has become their lifes work and business, so energy exchanges energy, in this case, payment for services.
MINDFULNESS is SOULFULNESS so feel your thoughts, hear your heart, and listen to your soul for that is what puts your spirit into action.
Remember to stay in the integrity of soul one must always be honest in intent and in action, can you look at your self in the mirror and be open and honest with self? for that is where the truth starts, you are your word, your action, your truth, own it, be it, speak it, share it, for that is what life is about SOUL HEART SPIRIT INTEGRITY.
By Sara Troy
Self Discovery Media Owner/Producer /Host
Come hear all the wondrous illuminational stories and find your guider right here with us.
Don’t judge me by my looks, my clothes or the way I wear my hair .My beauty is not limited to my looks or the way I walk. Define me by the tough emotional battles I fight each day. Define me by the way I keep smiling no matter how emotionally worked up I am.
My life is not glorious and I don’t have medals or trophies to flaunt but my biggest trophy is my heart full of love and compassion. I am sensitive and overemotional at times but I am not weak. I know when, where and how to react to the situations in my life. I have been cheated and betrayed in love but I am still not afraid to fall in love again because I have confidence in my abilities to love with all that I have.
I have endured the pain of heartbreak and moved on because I am emotionally strong and I have made my decision to stay happy for myself. I have been broken, shattered and rebuilt and I am a woman of endurance, confidence and courage. I have the capacity to endure pain and survive despite all the odds in my life because I am strong through and through.
I’m unique in my own special ways even with my flaws and imperfections. I am proud of what I am…and who I am Dr. Anon.
Life may not come with a map, but everyone will experience twists and turns, from everyday challenges to traumatic events with more lasting impact, like the death of a loved one, a life-altering accident or a serious illness. Each change affects people differently, bringing a unique flood of thoughts, strong emotions and uncertainty. Yet people generally adapt well over time to life-changing situations and stressful situations — in part thanks to resilience.
Psychologists define resilience as the process of adapting well in the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats or significant sources of stress — such as family and relationship problems, serious health problems, or workplace and financial stressors. As much as resilience involves “bouncing back” from these difficult experiences, it can also involve profound personal growth.
While these adverse events, much like rough river waters, are certainly painful and difficult, they don’t have to determine the outcome of your life. There are many aspects of your life you can control, modify and grow with. That’s the role of resilience. Becoming more resilient not only helps you get through difficult circumstances, it also empowers you to grow and even improve your life along the way.
Being resilient doesn’t mean that a person won’t experience difficulty or distress. People who have suffered major adversity or trauma in their lives commonly experience emotional pain and stress. In fact, the road to resilience is likely to involve considerable emotional distress.
While certain factors might make some individuals more resilient than others, resilience isn’t necessarily a personality trait that only some people possess. On the contrary, resilience involves behaviors, thoughts and actions that anyone can learn and develop. The ability to learn resilience is one reason research has shown that resilience is ordinary, not extraordinary. One example is the response of many Americans to the Sept. 11, 2001 terrorist attacks and individuals’ efforts to rebuild their lives after tragedy.
Like building a muscle, increasing your resilience takes time and intentionality. Focusing on four core components — connection, wellness, healthy thinking and meaning — can empower you to withstand and learn from difficult and traumatic experiences. To increase your capacity for resilience to weather — and grow from — the difficulties, use these strategies.
Build your connections
Prioritize relationships. Connecting with empathetic and understanding people can remind you that you’re not alone in the midst of difficulties. Focus on finding trustworthy and compassionate individuals who validate your feelings, which will support the skill of resilience.
The pain of traumatic events can lead some people to isolate themselves, but it’s important to accept help and support from those who care about you. Whether you go on a weekly date night with your spouse or plan a lunch out with a friend, try to prioritize genuinely connecting with people who care about you.
Join a group.
Along with one-on-one relationships, some people find that being active in civic groups, faith-based communities, or other local organizations provides social support and can help you reclaim hope. Research groups in your area that could offer you support and a sense of purpose or joy when you need it.
Foster wellness
Take care of your body.
Self-care may be a popular buzzword, but it’s also a legitimate practice for mental health and building resilience. That’s because stress is just as much physical as it is emotional. Promoting positive lifestyle factors like proper nutrition, ample sleep, hydration and regular exercise can strengthen your body to adapt to stress and reduce the toll of emotions like anxiety or depression.
Practice mindfulness
Mindful journaling, yoga, and other spiritual practices like prayer or meditation can also help people build connections and restore hope, which can prime them to deal with situations that require resilience. When you journal, meditate or pray, ruminate on positive aspects of your life and recall the things you’re grateful for, even during personal trials.
Avoid negative outlets. It may be tempting to mask your pain with alcohol, drugs or other substances, but that’s like putting a bandage on a deep wound. Focus instead on giving your body resources to manage stress, rather than seeking to eliminate the feeling of stress altogether.
Find purpose
Help others. Whether you volunteer with a local homeless shelter or simply support a friend in their own time of need, you can garner a sense of purpose, foster self-worth, connect with other people and tangibly help others, all of which can empower you to grow in resilience.
Be proactive.
It’s helpful to acknowledge and accept your emotions during hard times, but it’s also important to help you foster self-discovery by asking yourself, “What can I do about a problem in my life?” If the problems seem too big to tackle, break them down into manageable pieces.
For example, if you got laid off at work, you may not be able to convince your boss it was a mistake to let you go. But you can spend an hour each day developing your top strengths or working on your resume. Taking initiative will remind you that you can muster motivation and purpose even during stressful periods of your life, increasing the likelihood that you’ll rise up during painful times again.
Move toward your goals.
Develop some realistic goals and do something regularly — even if it seems like a small accomplishment — that enables you to move toward the things you want to accomplish. Instead of focusing on tasks that seem unachievable, ask yourself, “What’s one thing I know I can accomplish today that helps me move in the direction I want to go?” For example, if you’re struggling with the loss of a loved one and you want to move forward, you could join a grief support group in your area.
Look for opportunities for self-discovery.
People often find that they have grown in some respect as a result of a struggle. For example, after a tragedy or hardship, people have reported better relationships and a greater sense of strength, even while feeling vulnerable. That can increase their sense of self-worth and heighten their appreciation for life.
Embrace healthy thoughts
Keep things in perspective. How you think can play a significant part in how you feel — and how resilient you are when faced with obstacles. Try to identify areas of irrational thinking, such as a tendency to catastrophize difficulties or assume the world is out to get you, and adopt a more balanced and realistic thinking pattern. For instance, if you feel overwhelmed by a challenge, remind yourself that what happened to you isn’t an indicator of how your future will go, and that you’re not helpless. You may not be able to change a highly stressful event, but you can change how you interpret and respond to it.
Accept change.
Accept that change is a part of life. Certain goals or ideals may no longer be attainable as a result of adverse situations in your life. Accepting circumstances that cannot be changed can help you focus on circumstances that you can alter.
Maintain a hopeful outlook.
It’s hard to be positive when life isn’t going your way. An optimistic outlook empowers you to expect that good things will happen to you. Try visualizing what you want, rather than worrying about what you fear. Along the way, note any subtle ways in which you start to feel better as you deal with difficult situations.
Learn from your past.
By looking back at who or what was helpful in previous times of distress, you may discover how you can respond effectively to new difficult situations. Remind yourself of where you’ve been able to find strength and ask yourself what you’ve learned from those experiences.
Seeking help
Getting help when you need it is crucial in building your resilience.
For many people, using their own resources and the kinds of strategies listed above may be enough for building their resilience. But at times, an individual might get stuck or have difficulty making progress on the road to resilience.
A licensed mental health professional such as a psychologist can assist people in developing an appropriate strategy for moving forward. It is important to get professional help if you feel like you are unable to function as well as you would like or perform basic activities of daily living as a result of a traumatic or other stressful life experience. Keep in mind that different people tend to be comfortable with different styles of interaction. To get the most out of your therapeutic relationship, you should feel at ease with a mental health professional or in a support group.
The important thing is to remember you’re not alone on the journey. While you may not be able to control all of your circumstances, you can grow by focusing on the aspects of life’s challenges you can manage with the support of loved ones and trusted professionals.
Ever notice how to big breakdowns pivot your life into massive growth? How the things that feel like they are a great disruption are the very things that help things to bring your life into more alignment.
Ever notice how sometimes you’ve become so comfortable that life has a way of reshuffling itself to say, not this, there is something more?
Like perhaps there is something much deeper, much more aligned to your life purpose and much more rewarding for you on the other side of growth?
What if, until the wrong things fall away, or until things shift for you, you wouldn’t have made the necessary changes?
What if the discomfort, the pain, the suffering is the necessary catalyst for you to shift into higher states of becoming more or who you are at your core?
Becoming familiar with the changes and discomfort so that growth can take place is what’s often required.
It is our human nature to fight back, we have a knee-jerk reaction to things and we like to be argumentative and be right. This, unfortunately, gets us nowhere, so why don’t we try a different approach in 2023?
We know we are still in this pandemic and all its variants; weknow we are in transition in our personal lives, mental health, wellness, financial security, in industries, and in global economics. So fighting against it is futile. This is the time to ask ourselves what we are going to do about it, what we have learned, and how we are going to seed opportunities for 2023.
Everything, even disasters have a reason, some times it is to change our direction, sometimes a lesson about ourselves we need to learn, but it is always about us having the ability to make the changes we need to move forward and not drag ourselves down by what has been.
2020, 2021, just survival, 2022, coming out of the fog, and all of it was a time of reflection, a time to review our lives and go into ourselves and feel what we want for our future. A time to step up and be counted in heart and kindness and help each other on this windy, rocky path. We have so much to be grateful for, but when in fear, doubt, and hysteria, we can not see the gifts before us.
2023 is a year of nurturing those seeds you planted, watering them, and allowing them to grow. It is a time to allow and open up to change and when you come from the heart space, your mind sees things differently and you feel more enriched by what is possible and what is growing within and around you.
This transformation of humanity still has about 2-3 more years to grow. If we come together and stop fighting each other, and start listening to the inner voice, we will see how we can make the changes and why we need to, for if we do not, this planet and the source of universal energy will change it for us and it will be a harder ride than even 2024.
So let us rise up to the occasion and be the change the world needs, be the strength and solution we need in our own lives. FOR IF NOT YOU, WHO? We can not wait for others to do it for us anymore; we must be proactive in our own lives and in our community in order to thrive and rise up to greater heights.
